Have you heard the adage, “Everyone is a critic?” It’s true. And, the biggest critic of all is staring right back at you through the mirror. No one has to come down hard on you because you are already putting yourself into a vicious head lock as it is. Keep reading to find out six ways that you can send that cynical noisemaker packing.
I have heard it said that you can talk to yourself as long as you don’t answer back.
If you don’t answer back, however, the potentially negative thoughts will continue unchallenged. This is more detrimental than being considered crazy!
We often follow the patterns created in our minds by our thoughts. Allowing negative self-talk to dominate your mind can lead to low self-esteem, bad habits, depression and other unhealthy results.
So if you need it – you have my permission to answer yourself back when that inner critic shows up!
Do it right away
Don’t let the pressure get to you.
Be proactive. Attack those thoughts as soon as they start to speak. Get creative.
Box up your negativity
This can be literal or figurative.
In the grand scheme of our life, each problem holds a small place overall. Seeing it as small minimizes its power over you.
Try this. Create a small box or purchase one.
Whenever you are plagued by a negative thought about yourself for the way you handled a problem or because you made a mistake, write it down on a piece of paper. Put it away in that small box. See your issue diminishing in size. Those thoughts do not define who you are.
Replace negativity with positive self-talk
Talk to a trusted friend
Explain the situation that made you feel so bad. Allow your friend to console you, counsel you and challenge that negative thought pattern that is condemning you.
Was the situation as bad as you imagined it was? Maybe you are embellishing the story because of the negatives swirling in your mind? Take a realistic look at you and put things into perspective.
Accept your imperfections
Don’t “agree to disagree” with certain attributes but embrace them as old friends. They are a part of you – the good, the bad, the ugly and the peculiar. Love who you are and then move on to making changes in your life.
Count your positives
It’s similar to counting your blessings, which is another healthy and wonderful thing that you should do regularly. What is good about you? What have you done that is positive? Before you know it, you don’t feel bad anymore.
Don’t let that voice in your head overshadow your actual voice. Speak the truth and change your circumstances.
You really are wonderful and special and loved.