You’re not perfect, right? You, though, are uniquely YOU, and that’s a wonderful thing. It’s time to embrace your beautiful imperfection and let you shine through.
It seems like every day I apologize to someone because I’m not perfect, not superwoman, and can’t do it all, all the time, perfectly. No high heels and pearls, either!
Are you like me?
Maybe it was silently, where no one heard but you, but you were still doing it – apologizing for your imperfection. You felt ashamed of your weight or your housekeeping, the size of your garden or the amount of livestock you have, the car you drive or the job you do. You might feel embarrassed by your education, your social skills, the behaviour of your children, or the number of your children – whether you have none or six!
Imperfection is not the opposite of perfection, as if imperfection were a state to be avoided.
Instead, imperfection is the state of acceptance of self through love. Without seeing who you truly are, you won’t know what to change and what to keep. Perfectionism just throws everything out the window to insist that you are not and never will be enough. That is when your inner critic shows up, letting you know just how unworthy and unlovable you are.
Recently, in a Facebook post, I thanked my readers for being there and asked everyone to write “I am awesome and I know it!” to show that they had read the post. Although some did just that, many of my readers (who are talented, beautiful, skilled and quite amazing people, every one of you!) had a shocking level of difficulty writing those words.
We want to change our lives and change the world. We want to improve things for ourselves and others. But before we can do that, we need to accept – and embrace – our perfect imperfection.
“Accept me as I am” is a battle cry.
It doesn’t mean that you won’t change detrimental habits because you are embracing who you are. It also doesn’t mean that you are promoting laziness or lack of ambition. Most of my readers are actively homesteading, increasing their preparedness and self-sufficiency and more – you are not lazy!
What it does mean is that you have taken a look inside of yourself and seen who the person inside truly is. There are things that you like about yourself and also things that you don’t, but it all works together to become the person that you are today.
True change in your life is an act of love.
You can lose weight when you love who you are right now at your current weight. It means that your life, self-esteem and happiness are not tied to a number. Anything done out of self-hate doesn’t usually last because you are always criticizing your efforts, and that is NOT how to get started with new, healthy habits. Nothing is ever good enough because you start off not liking anything about yourself from the beginning. You’d leave your own body if you could.
There is nothing healthy about that. Imperfection says that the only way through is with love on board. Accepting and embracing you by celebrating why you are unique. It is getting reacquainted with yourself through a few steps that show the value that was there all along.
5 Ways to Imperfect Freedom
#1 Take some serious time for introspection
Don’t be afraid to look at yourself honestly. Write down what is positive and what is negative in your eyes. Find ways to change the wording of those negatives so they are now positives that you can embrace. When I was a child, I often heard people describing my hair as “mouse brown” – it’s not a description that made me feel good about my hair colour. As I grow older – and now have a daughter with the same warm, chestnut brown hair – I’m careful not to give her such an unflattering image of herself. In addition, I remind myself that I, too, have pretty chestnut brown hair. No mice here.
#2 Discover what you like to do and don’t like to do
Don’t be afraid to say “no” to events or activities that don’t foster your interests just because it’s a “cool” or “acceptable” thing to do.
#3 Try something new
Try bold colors for clothing or change your hairstyle. There’s nothing wrong with experimenting with new looks to accentuate your positives and give yourself a confidence boost.
#4 Laugh more
Laughter promotes feel-good endorphin release. Take time out to have fun and take a rest. It is restorative and also promotes health.
#5 Explore your creative side
Are you a “right-brained” person? Find out if you have any creative tendencies. Stimulate that side of your brain to bring out attributes you didn’t know you had.
Allow yourself to be human, flawed and free by embracing your imperfect life.
Right now, know that you really are wonderful, lovable and loved in your glorious imperfection.